Relationships

“Please Pass the Butter”

Everyday struggles with marriage are real! I have come to learn that Marriage truly is a journey and involves work. You must make an effort, even after years of marriage. Of course, it becomes easier when you learn each other’s habits and with time there is a comfortable space for silence, but you cannot stop talking to your partner. You cannot stop trying to woo each other and you most defiantly cannot stop being polite. Here is a common scenario, Wife “I have told you so many times can you please take the garbage out”. Husband “Fine, I will do it in a little bit”. Or “Please put the toilet seat down” or “Please empty your pockets, so it’s easier when I do laundry”. The list can go on. Yes, it is important to say it politely on a wife’s end, but it is also important to realize that how many times can one person say the same thing over and over again politely? At work if someone had to tell you every day would you last in that job? Better yet, would you get frustrated and just want to leave? Well this is what happens in a marriage as well when one person must constantly repeat. Please understand husbands, you need to make an effort to consider what is important to your wife. We are not your mother’s, yet we clean, we cook we manage the household, all while having careers for ourselves too. We are happy to do it! But do not forget to “pass the butter” Please be mindful of the little things and help us out. We do not want to have to constantly repeat, so that you resent us. From time to time “butter us up”. Appreciate the small things we do with a hug or kind words. Wife’s, we too should appreciate the small things our husbands do. My newest book I am reading is called “Love and Respect”. The book explains “A wife has one driving need- to feel loved. When that is met, she is happy. A husband has one driving need- to feel respected. When that is met, he is happy”. If we can even apply this simple rule in our day to day lives, we can live blissful with our partners.